It was said by my therapist, that it truly takes your own village to raise a child. Human beings (especially mothers) are not supposed to raise a child alone. Raising another human being is TOUGH! Take the help when it is offered.
Back in the day, most families lived together. Grandparents, parents, sometimes siblings, offspring, etc. Everyone was there to pitch in when needed. When the mother or father needed extra rest, a warm meal to eat, or when they needed to go to work. Every single person had a specific role in their houses and just did their job. Granted, women usually were stay-at-home mothers, they still had a ton of work to do within the household.
I am not saying that others should parent your children. Mothers and fathers should parent their own children. Family and others should be around to strictly help. Maybe they can give advice and help with goals, but not parent. Children will succeed when they have multiple role models in their life – they will get to develop new skills and participate in different life experiences.
Almost two months have gone by since I moved in with my parents with my son. They have been extremely helpful and I am so thankful. I now know why people live near their families and ask for help when needed (I am very stubborn when it comes to asking for help). My mom and dad have sent me back to bed when Anders didn’t sleep through the night, have homecooked meals prepared every night and watch Anders for me when I have to go to work. I am so thankful that I have such a great family and support system that are always willing to help me out.
We (parents) are doing our best. You are doing the best job that you can! But the village is there – grandparents, aunts, best friends, mom groups – when you need it. Take the help.