When one brings a baby into the world, your whole life changes. Life becomes busy with feedings, blowouts, laundry hampers, and starting the dishwasher. This goes on for weeks which turns into months which then turns into years. Motherhood is great, something some women will unfortunately never be able to experience, but in the back of your mind are you wondering when you will become your own person again?
Before baby, you may have been a party animal. Sports lover. Workaholic. World traveller. How does one balance their previous life with motherhood going into the future? You may have been offered “me” time throughout the past year but it has been really hard to get up and go do something without baby. Why is that?
According to www.activekids.com, mom guilt is defined as the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness, or uncertainty experienced by mothers when they worry that they are falling short of expectations in some way. For many mothers, the variables that contribute to the phenomenon are numerous and intense.
Mom guilt is real. Most mothers feel like they can never have a night out for themselves. That they should be home preparing supper, cleaning up and then putting the children to bed. Why? Why should one feel guilty?
How can you try to beat mom guilt?
- Trust yourself and your intuition – this is definitely harder said than done.
- Use your village. It takes a village to raise a child, you don’t have to do it alone. Your village could be family, friends, mom and baby friends, coworkers, etc.
- Forgive yourself. Some days are harder than others. Children can be demanding. It’s okay to pick up fast food for dinner.
- Sleep and make sure you get some self-care in (check my post on 17 Ideas for Self Care)!
Do you feel guilty at times? Do you get out and enjoy the activities that you used to, kid free? How do you feel less guilty when taking time for yourself?